Sharon Stewart, PsyD
INTENTIONAL ENRICHMENT COUNSELING
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This blog is intended to provoke thought, smiles, perhaps even the occasional chuckle. It is composed of quotes, poems, articles, and pictures that I find thought-provoking, encouraging, or informative. They may or may not reflect my personal experience or, necessarily, my views. Nonetheless, I found them interesting and hope you will as well. I believe an intentional life requires awareness, introspection, compassion, and effort to exercise the freedom to choose. These are some of my navigational beacons for psychotherapy.

March 3, 2019
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​Reported on goodnewsnetwork.org on February 19, 2019:

​Hearing impairment can often serve as a social barrier for those who don’t know how to speak sign language – but in this little Massachusetts town, sign language has actually brought the community together. 2-year-old Samantha Savitz is deaf, but that doesn’t stop her from being an outgoing little toddler. Whenever Samantha is out with her parents in their town of Newton, she tries to chat up everyone she meets.

As the youngster got older, she continuously tried to befriend her neighbors – and they were all heartbroken when they were unable to respond because they did not know sign language.

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ther than giving up, the entire community started attending sign language classes so they could communicate with Samantha.

February 24, 2019

“A man receives only what he is ready to receive… We hear and apprehend only what we already half know. If there is something which does not concern me, which is out of my line, which by experience or by genius my attention is not drawn to, however novel and remarkable it may be, if it is spoken we hear it not, if it is written, we read it not, or if we read it, it does not detain us. Every man thus tracks himself through life, in all his hearing and reading and observation and traveling. His observations make a chain. The phenomenon or fact that cannot in any wise be linked with the rest which he has observed, he does not observe. By and by we may be ready to receive what we cannot receive now.” Henry David Thoreau

Here is an eloquent expression of what I see as a source of much pain - our tendency as human beings to perceive that which is consistent with what we expect to see in others, the world, and ourselves while not giving our attention to that which might suggest an alternate theory about our experience or existence. Shaping reality to confirm expectations or beliefs that are painful or shameful pales before the fear of reconfiguring what we think we know or what we predict to be true. I believe that part of the stones that form the path to making life better is exposing those beliefs and expectation to the light of day, then to draw on our courage to test them.

Scars

8/13/2016

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It's a shallow life that doesn't give a person a few scars.
Garrison Keillor

Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
Khalil Gibran


Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going.
David Rossi, Criminal Minds

Most of us have scars, inside and out. They are varied in origin - some are mementos of adventures, some are left by the thoughtlessness of others, some we inflict upon ourselves with the harsh words we use to describe or judge ourselves. The possibilities are endless. Could avoiding scars require avoiding life - to choose not love, learn, explore, dare, strive, or dream? Perhaps, living the life we want means accepting that hurts will happen and scars will ensue, but the riches we gain in emotional, spiritual, and fulfillment terms are worth enduring the healing process?

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Change

8/12/2016

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Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.
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Lao Tzu


Source:  
http://www.brainyquote.com/search_results.html?q=Lao+tzu
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Individuality

8/10/2016

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The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.

Friedrich Nietzsche


Original source:
 http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/f/friedrich_nietzsche.html


Isn't it interesting that, with all of our expressed respect and appreciation for the uniqueness of the individual, there is so often pressure to conform? Nietzche in this quote noted the high price sometimes paid to be authentic, to stand against popular opinion for your truth and/or your values. Yet, conformity at the expense of one's true self carries an insidious high price, scarcely noticed as it becomes our "normal," doesn't it? What is the cost of constant self-censorship and impression management, living with a true self that is at odds with the self presented to the world in order to "fit in"?




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Quiet kindness

8/9/2016

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This was recently posted on a neighborhood Facebook page:

"My faith in the next generation has been completely restored.
On Thursday, my sister and I went to the * on * [location removed by this poster]. To say I had been having a bad day was an epic understatement.
I ordered first and payed for my meal with my debit card. The boy at the register couldn't have been more than 17 or 18 years old. 
He told me to have a nice day and I went to get my drink and sit down. My sister was behind me and she said that she saw my credit card get declined. She saw the boy look over at me, (I was then sitting down) and then watched him pull out his wallet and pay with his card. 
He didn't say a word to my sister about it.
(My sister later went back to him and told him she saw what he did and told him how much it meant to her that someone would be so kind to me...and gave him a $20 bill.)
I ended up discovering the identity of this 18 year old boy through social media...and I texted him today to thank him and express how much good he did to my heart. His response?
"I'm glad that my actions made a difference in your day. I understand how days can go and I'm glad that I had the opportunity to make yours better.""


So much of what is discussed, written, filmed and photographed today is dark in one way or another - at times almost seeming designed to narrow our perspective to focus on the sad, heinous, and/or cruel occurrences in the world. It can seem  easy to forget that there are millions of quiet acts of kindness and generosity that happen in the world without media attention or fanfare. True perspective, in my opinion, means remembering and engaging in acts of kindness such as this one even or, perhaps, because we have to dig for them despite the awful things that are presented to us on a platter. It's human nature - maybe for survival reasons - to more readily remember what is painful or frightening, so I think that maintaining that broader awareness is effortful, and I think the effort is worth the hope that perspective brings. 
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